You can't be just friends with someone you had feelings with, especially with their girlfriend. It's either you still love them or didn't in the first place. I was once bumped into these lines and I believe these are not true, or at least not in my case.
High school. Who didn't have "the best time of their lives"? Yes, high school. Like a normal kid, I totally made the best out of those times. Academic to non-academic school affairs, almost failing grades, guidance counselor office visits, impossible assignments, exam top-notch, cutting classes, teenage love affairs, etc.
I did mine - worthwhile, especially because of my high school sweetheart. We didn't end up together but I am happy I had him once. Our relationship ended after graduation just because we have to go. I don't know, I loved him but the break-up didn't hurt so bad. We didn't see each often, no communication whatsoever, it just turned off. I think it went on to what we call a naturally death. Like ending a very good book, it's sad but you have to close and leave it behind.
After many years, he had relationships and I had mine. I don't understand why his girlfriends hated me. So, there's this lover after me, hated me because of whatever reason. Maybe because I am the ex. You know ex-girlfriends... Bitches, we call them that because maybe they had our guy first or maybe of insecurities, I don't know. Then maybe it's because of our differences and sameness of liking the same guy - like a reflection of ourselves but in a weird way.
I've been quite about those bitches. I don't care about my ex and his present relationships because I was in college, I lived my life and I am occupied with the present, my present life.
After college, I left our hometown and I haven't heard about him for a long time then someone messaged me in my Facebook account. There's this young lady, she introduced herself to be the girlfriend of him. And I was like, wow! What is this? I was obnoxious. He had relationships after me, then why not contact the girl before her. I am way last in the line of his ex's. I thought she's going to be one of those "haters" but things are great between us. She's a decade younger than us, so I thought she will act like those teenagers who's going to throw tantrums at him and post hate words on my FB timeline.
She admitted to had arguments with him whenever I came into topic. She even told me how he used to "spark" when they talked about me. It's quite flattering, you know. I remember her asking advice how to tame him. Then had her heart broken by him, still she told me. We are good friends right now. We just talked about him last night on how he used to be. How he used to be mine, and how he used to be hers. How he used to be our pretty boy.
Now, why am I not bothered with this? Did I not love him in the first place? Love, what's that even mean? Is it the way you care for him? Is it the thoughts for him? The trust? The commitment? Yes, I cared, trusted and used to think about him. If it is love, then I used to love him that I wanted him grow in a distance. I loved him, not the kind that smothered. If he comes back, then fine.
Now, I'm just glad that there's this girl who looks at me as a friend, with all those ex's and present girlfriend my ex-boyfriends had and will going to have, including their friends, who's going to hate you forever.
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(So, to answer the question; we can't help but feel somewhat negative when it comes to this EX thing. Humans as part of the animal kingdom, females are territorial in nature especially when around with other females. This is why "mother-in-laws" are typically monstrous (haha..sorry mommy Tess). We wanted us to be the one and the best.
We'll get jealous and insecure when he's around with someone, especially with someone whom he has history with. He might leave because the other girl is cooler, prettier, hotter or whatever than me. Or he will cheat because you are....etc...No matter how we wanted to see it, they're there. They are part of his past. Accept it because like how humans are programmed biologically, his past is something we can't change. Besides, no matter how great you are there will always be greater than you.
Confidence and trust.
Believe in yourself. Show him you're the best he can have. Dress well, act well and invest in your mind. Be the woman he will want.
Believe in him. He may not be the showy type but he never misses good morning and goodnight messages. Let him go out with his friends. Let him missed you. Men don't want to be fenced. The more you are clingy, the more they elude you.)
